It sort of goes without saying that one should never rush into a divorce,
but surprisingly, many people do. In a moment of anger and frustration, it's
easy to get overwhelmed, but a divorce is a major life decision. Make sure to
prepare yourself beforehand by doing the following:
Talking
to a Marriage Counselor.
Are you absolutely certain your issues are unfixable? And if you are, are
you sure you're well enough to cope? Both marriage and divorce counseling
exist, and they're extremely helpful. They can help you to forgive your spouse
(or yourself) and reduce the emotional toll on the situation. You may end up
deciding not to get a divorce after all, or you may simply benefit by being
more emotionally prepared.
Talking
to an Attorney.
There are plenty of knowledgeable attorneys such as Marshall
Davis Brown who have been through the process many times. They have seen what
divorcees have done wrong to make their situation worse, and they've seen
divorcees who have regrets. They can provide you with all the information to
ensure that you're prepared for the next step, then let you know how to proceed
wisely.
Deciding
Whether to Move.
Never pack up and go without talking to an attorney first. It could
result in you having to pay more alimony than necessary, or make you unable to
collect alimony. It also may be illegal for you to return, even if you decide
you wish to. Wait it out in separate rooms until you know the legal
implications.
Handle
the Heavy Stuff.
If you've been involved with extramarital affairs and are certain you're
ready for a divorce, you may want to discuss it with a lawyer before breaking
the news to your spouse. Admitting to an affair can greatly affect the legal
consequences of your situation – not to mention, in some states, it's illegal.
Safeguard
your Assets.
In some cases, one day you could be driving down the street, and the
next, your car is taken from you. Have a lawyer help you protect your assets so
you're not left with nothing until the divorce is finalized.HHand