One can't particularly expect that the process of a divorce, and figuring
out child custody, is going to be an easy one for the kids to deal with. The
children in a divorce have to essentially re-learn how to live their lives with
just one parent or dividing their time between both. This may mean moving and
switching schools or even adjusting to a new step-parent as well; it's
particularly difficult for adolescents and teenagers. It's important to be as
aware and considerate of your children's feelings as possible during the
process.
Settle the issue of child custody and/or visitation as fairly as possible
by seeing an experienced lawyer such as Marshall Davis Brown, Jr. Your
lawyer will help to ensure that
The most important thing is ensuring that your child has a place to
express his or her feelings. Encourage them to talk to you, but keep in mind
that you might not bet the person they want to talk to. If necessary, have them
see a therapist, or simply buy them a journal to help them get their thoughts
out on paper.
No matter how much bad blood there may be between you and your ex-spouse,
never let your children see it. Never fight in front of the kids, and most
importantly, never use your kids as weapons in the divorce. Do not threaten
your spouse by saying that he or she cannot see the children, and if you have
an issue about the spouse's contributions to the children's lives, speak to
them about it privately. You can change your marriage, but the kids can't
change who their parents are, so do not try to turn them against their mother
or father.
Most importantly, take note of other aspects of your children's lives.
Ensure that their grades are staying high, that they're maintaining an interest
in sports, that they're keeping friends, et cetera. Slacking in certain areas
could be signs of depression, and it's important now more than ever to pay mind
to this potential.
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